I strongly believe that happiness makes you beautiful.
Yet in the reverse, why does beauty make people unhappy? Anorexia, bulimia, plastic surgery…the list goes on. Everywhere and everyday people are seeking ‘beautiful.’ But what is beautiful? Is their pursuit misguided and misrepresented…because who is directing this search? Who governs over the rules of beauty?
It’s like driving, in that rushed, frantic, caught in traffic kind-of way and yet you never find Disneyland. Or a Caribbean island. (I don't think this makes sense because realistically you can't 'drive' to an island...but oh well!) We just keep on going and going. Miles and miles. And the further we go the harder it gets. We drive through bogs and over bridges. Get boob jobs and botox. And the harder we push to get to our final destination the further away we find ourselves.
From that place and time when we will finally look in the mirror and say “you look beautiful today."
So do we blame society’s perception of beauty?
Or is it the value we place on beauty that is wrong?
In order to counter it’s affect should we separate happiness from 'aesthetic beauty’? A beauty that (to use the words of Shakespeare) is “marked in parcels” and disregards intellect and personality?
10 years ago this blog would be speaking directly to women. Women limited by society’s example of how they should look and behave. However, I realise that this argument extends its hand to men- because the pressures of the 6-pack, being the ‘top dog’ and looking masculine are becoming equally restrictive. It is stopping brilliant, bright and quirky people bringing themselves to the table. No one can be you. NO ONE. So don’t bother trying to be Cara Delevingne. Kate Moss. Or even just your tall, skinny friend. Embrace you, because no one can do that better than you. Not even Miss Moss.
If you are honest and true to who and what you are, then I think you will find some kind of happy. A sort of happiness that escapes the media and its perfect white smile. To quote Stephen hawking: “One of the basic rules of the universe is that nothing is perfect. Perfection simply doesn't exist.....Without imperfection, neither you nor I would exist”
So be perfectly imperfect !